Have you ever prayed for someone in your life to change? Maybe it’s a sister of yours that for many years you have hoped they would come to put their faith in Christ. Perhaps it is a close friend that seems lost and incapable of being a little less selfish and a little more selfless in their attitude toward other people. If you stop and think for a second…how many years have gone by while you’ve been hoping for this type of change to take place?
It has to make you think – will it ever?
First of all, I think that it is important to realize that these things that you see in their lives – the anger issues, the drinking habits, and the selfishness – are all responses to pain. It is the pain that came from the massive hole carved out of our hearts when we fell away from our relationship with God and our sin prevented us from knowing God’s love like we once did.
I have a feeling that one of the most successful strategies for ministry in someone else’s life is to help them realize how much God loves them. When I consider the fact that I’m still single, I appreciate that I’ve been able to learn how precious love is. Without being able to find a substitute for true love in anything or any experience found on this planet, God’s love for me and the intensity of it reaches to my heart and I feel free. Free from the expectations that I put on myself and free to liberate others from the expectations that I put on them. If you need to see what I’m talking about, please check out my last post.
I’ll give you a head’s up though – the difficult part is going to be helping someone to realize how much they are loved and showing them it’s ok to let go and embrace it. Many people check out on this responsibility by just saying “well, I’ve prayed about it, so now it’s in God’s hands to show them His love.” Here’s the news flash: it was always in God’s hands and He wants to use you to show His love to those people!
Lastly, don’t try scaring them into love with God…forced love is not love at all. They’ll realize they have sin that is separating them from God when they realize the perfection of God’s love shown in His character and His grace. Have the conversation about dealing with sin and their depravity after they realize who God is and they see His love is beyond anything they can gain in this world. Realize that bringing them to a conviction over their sin and into repentance is what the Holy Spirit will be doing in their heart when they hear the Gospel of Jesus Christ. We, on the other hand, are made and called to love.
Still thinking about that parent or aunt or close friend? Consider what you know about them and what might make them feel loved. Does their short-comings make loving them a really difficult task? If so, you may be a step closer to realizing, appreciating and embracing God’s perfect love for you.
For most of us, a particular person might come to mind, perhaps a heroic character from a war movie or a favorite president from our country’s history. We sometimes think of a charismatic politician or the leader of some large movement. The individual might be loud, boisterous and has a ‘larger than life’ presence about them when they speak. They demand everyone’s attention around them and can move the hearts of thousands to follow their vision. While this is certainly not the only type of leader who is effective, they can be the types to gain their following quickly. 
and for a time (before they just became a fad) they would actually cause people to reflect on the model Jesus gave us for living the Christian life. While many teens would wear the bracelet and maybe make a second decision concerning alcohol or drugs, I think the idea could help a lot of people identify what they’re meant to do with their life as well. To use Christ’s life as a focal point might also provide some great direction in a world that tends to pull people in hundreds of directions as they search for answers.
Now, I know you’re probably wondering how I could be driving all this time without realizing the condition of my vehicle, but I was already aware of one tire slowly losing air pressure. The water pump part though came as a total surprise to me.